Play or get played

When girls fall in love, they fear no evil, they believe in every word that comes out of a guys mouth. They never even concider the possibility of getting played, because OF COURSE this guy is THE ONE and he will never ever in a 1000 years play them and hurt them.

Maybe a girl had a plan before she met a guy, but that plan disappears together with her vision of her dream guy and she forgets that she should be careful and watch her back... 'Cause you just never know....

What differs a girl from a woman besides age is wisdom. Women are a little wiser when it comes to relationships, though some of them still don't have a clue about men. Usually women have plans and clear visions of type of men they want, especially because they've been played a couple of times and they know what to look for.

We all know how painful it is to get played, nobody wants to be in that situation, because you just feel stupid. No matter how you got played, it's by far one of the most embarrassing things in life. In time you will get over it, but you will never forget it. Especially how it made you feel and look.

What if all women knew how to avoid getting played? Then they would know what to look for, which signs, what type of men to avoid and so on... I know there are tons of books about this subject and hundreds of different views and opinions, but what if there was 1 book and 1 book only that could give you that special knowledge you've been searching for for so long. Wouldn't it be great and easy at same time?

I've decided that enough is enough, I'm tired of feeling stupid. I'm tired of forgetting what my plan was when I fall in love and I'm tired of being nothing but a puzzle piece in someones puzzle.
Of course there are all kind of advice about how to figure out if a man is for real or not, but you can't trust all of them, there are way too many opinions about love and relationships. So what we need is a mans opinion and since I just finished reading Steve Harveys book, I'm gonna do a little commercial for his book. 'Cause this guy really knows what he's talking about! I'm sure all the "players" out there are gonna hate him, 'cause he just revealed all their dirty secrets to us women. But he has daughters, so he knows that we all need the secret info about men and their behavour.
I don't know why guys keep on playing around, 'cause I'm sure non of them would like their sisters or daughters to be played by guys like that. I don't think they wanna comfort their mom's when their dads left them or whipe away their sisters tears over some dude who broke her heart.
The thing is, guys play, 'cause they can get away with it!!!!!!!!! And why is that???
BECAUSE WE LET THEM GET AWAY WITH IT! That's the only reason.
According to Steve Harveys book, sex is not the only thing all men want, BUT they all want it!

The rest is simple... Don't give it up too easily, get to know the guy and most important: his intentions! It will take about 90 days to do that and after that you'll get a really good picture of what he wants. Is he in for the game or does he has any intentions to take the relationship further.
So make a plan, play wise and don't get played!

All of this knowledge comes along with experience, you have to get played so badly before you'll know what to do next time and what to avoid.
When you accept bad behavour you show the guy that's it's okay to treat you like a doormat, he doens't have to try very hard, doesn't have to respect you or your boundries, your standards, any of these things.

What I'm wondering about is why do women make up exuse for their boyfriends/husbands bad behavour... Like..... he cheats, because I'm not good enough or because I'm too tired or too boring or they talk to other girls because our relationship is just not as inspiring as at the beginning... and bla bla bla...!

There is just no exuse for that kind of behavour, and I mean it! I know that sometimes you just can't escape and you stick around for too long, being treated so bad and when it all ends you start asking yourself how you could take so much crap from somebody for so long. And I also know that it's so hard because you would have given your man the world, or maybe you already did and he just ended up playing you. It hurts because you just don't understand it... Why would someone wanna destroy something that was so full of love, pure love....
Again, some are in it for the game and the game only and then there are other guys who actually have other intentions. Be aware of it, read some books about it and play safe!