I came across this post, I wrote it back in May. It's interesting how ones mood affects the things one writes. Back then I was sure that I would never ever engage myself in a long distance relationship again. But then it happened again. So the following post must be read as this: SOME long distance relationships are without a doubt an illusion! Others can actually work out.
The difference is time and future plans. That's what I think.
If you have realistic plans and are working towards same goal - to be living together. Then I'm sure it can work out. BUT if you are just having a long distance relationship and no future plans, then you'll probably agree on the following post. That's how I felt back then.....
Long distance relationships is an illusion
I used to think that it was possible, that a long distance relationship could work out if there's love, but things changed and I came to a sad conclusion. A long distance relationship is nothing but an illusion.
You walk around, convincing yourself that you are in a relationship, waiting, hoping, skyping, writing poems and love letters, counting the weeks, days, hours and you are sure that your loved one feels exactly same way. The pain, the sadness, not being able to touch each other or do things together, it gets more and more frustrating. I once read that a long distance relationship feels like falling off a cliff in slow motion, you just keep falling and there's nothing you can do.
The distance can make the heart grow founder, but for me it felt like drifting away from each other, more and more each day. I tried to be patient, but after a while I realized that we had each our own life and being a part of each other's lives is not as easy as it might seem, despite the internet and phones.
The fact that I wasn't able to be there with him, made me wonder, made me uncomfortable and angry, but most of all I was doubting the relationship. Was it real or was it just something we agreed on trying to do? Did "we" exist or were all the mails and Skype conversations an illusion?
What about love? What about promises? Can one be fully committed and faithful to an online illusion?
The difference is time and future plans. That's what I think.
If you have realistic plans and are working towards same goal - to be living together. Then I'm sure it can work out. BUT if you are just having a long distance relationship and no future plans, then you'll probably agree on the following post. That's how I felt back then.....
Long distance relationships is an illusion
I used to think that it was possible, that a long distance relationship could work out if there's love, but things changed and I came to a sad conclusion. A long distance relationship is nothing but an illusion.
You walk around, convincing yourself that you are in a relationship, waiting, hoping, skyping, writing poems and love letters, counting the weeks, days, hours and you are sure that your loved one feels exactly same way. The pain, the sadness, not being able to touch each other or do things together, it gets more and more frustrating. I once read that a long distance relationship feels like falling off a cliff in slow motion, you just keep falling and there's nothing you can do.
The distance can make the heart grow founder, but for me it felt like drifting away from each other, more and more each day. I tried to be patient, but after a while I realized that we had each our own life and being a part of each other's lives is not as easy as it might seem, despite the internet and phones.
The fact that I wasn't able to be there with him, made me wonder, made me uncomfortable and angry, but most of all I was doubting the relationship. Was it real or was it just something we agreed on trying to do? Did "we" exist or were all the mails and Skype conversations an illusion?
What about love? What about promises? Can one be fully committed and faithful to an online illusion?
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