Re-entering the field

I believe this post is gonna be quite useful for some of you, readers. It's about re-entering the dating field. Now I'm not the person to give you any dating advice, 'cause my lovelife sucks. I've never been very lucky. But I want to discuss some of the things that might hold you back from getting your ass out there again. Things that has been holding me back. First of all, trying to date again after a break-up is freaking painful, it's not a secret. It hurts as hell! That's why you don't do it until you think you are ready. No one can tell you how long it's gonna take for you to start healing, it might take some months, maybe ½ year, who knows. So don't go out there and make yourself available for any kind of contact until you feel like you can handle it. Next step is, when you are ready to re-enter the field, get in contact with a guy and simply start talking to someone new, go slow. There's no need to push yourself to the limit and jump into a new relationship too soon. Same goes for physical contact. No need to rush things. Instead drink a cup of coffee, talk, listen and get to know this new person you meet.

Personally I've been scared. No wait, more than scared. I was terrified. I told myself that I will wait and so I did. I waited 3 months. Did it make me feel any better?
Well, for a while I thought that maybe my ex-significant-other did same and waited or maybe he even saved himself for our reunion if we ever would get back together. Can you believe what you are reading right now??
The truth is men and women handle break-ups differently. While some prefer to isolate themselves, others has no issues with dating again. I have to admit I've been isolation myself, 'cause I didn't wanted to see what my reality looked like. I felt like my heart, body and mind belonged to the person I was in love with, that's why I didn't re-enter the field. But the thing is he is gonna date again, in fact he is, right this second and he is in the field, exposing himself all the time, whether I like it or not, whether I'm saving myself for him or not. So it's about time you get your act together and start looking around, no matter how it hurts, no matter how you just wanna hide underneath your blanket and never face the reality. Try one step at a time. That's my plan.
And I honestly believe that one day it will work. Not at the beginning, and I might end up crying my soul out a few times, but eventually I will feel comfortable by being in the dating zone/field/whatever.