As a young woman in 2012 I feel a certain pressure on my shoulders. There are so many things I have to be and it seems like I have to take a few important decisions in the next few years. People around me are getting engaged, married, they are having babies. Talking about how to be a good and loyal wife, a caring mother and so on. At same time we have to educate ourselves, get good job positions and always do our best. How can a woman be all that and achieve all of it without feeling pressure and getting stressed?
Some of us choose one of the two options: a fulltime housewife and mother or a career woman. But what about us who don’t wanna give up a career to become a mother and want to combine both worlds?
I don’t know about you people, but I get a little stressed watching my friends with engagement rings, or friends with babies, I start feeling a pressure when they tell me: “You’re next!” or “It will soon be your turn!”
It’s not that I don’t dream of marriage and kids, I’m just not ready yet. Each time I picture my own future, I somehow see myself alone. I don’t know why. I’ve always dreamed of a prince charming or a knight in shining armor, but that dream is gone.
As little girls reading fairytales we learn that a guy must come and rescue us from misery and then we’ll live happily ever after. It means that our happiness depends on someone else. We don’t have to do anything, just wait until the guy shows up and saves us from ourselves. It’s kind of frustrating and rather disappointing to grow up and realize that it was all wrong information!
I don’t wanna be rescued! I want to meet someone who will fit into the live I have and the life I’m creating for myself. We can work on it together, but please don’t rescue me! I’m fine! Don’t need help, really.
My reality is built on statistics and according to them way too many marriages don’t last forever. And if they do, how happy are these marriages… I’m not trying to ruin your dreams, but my number one priority right now is to be realistic. To understand what it is that girls imagined while reading fairytales and what we actually get when we grow up. Why all this pressure and rush to get married and start a family? ‘Cause once you get there and you reach your FD (= “final destination”), you can’t turn the clock back. When kids are born you’re 100% at your FD. And then what? You gonna live happily ever after?
That’s what is holding me back! When I reach my FD I won’t be able to rewrite my story, I’ll have to live it.
As I’m writing this post while waiting on my flight at JFK New York, I keep wondering maybe the time just hasn’t come yet, I’m just not ready.
I’ve heard the sentence “I’ll take care of you!” a couple of times in my life and it freaks me out! I don’t want that. I want to take care of myself, BUT I would like to have a man around to support my ideas and believe in me, loving me for who I am and share moments together, respect each other and spice up my world without being responsible for my happiness and taking credit for it.
Some of us choose one of the two options: a fulltime housewife and mother or a career woman. But what about us who don’t wanna give up a career to become a mother and want to combine both worlds?
I don’t know about you people, but I get a little stressed watching my friends with engagement rings, or friends with babies, I start feeling a pressure when they tell me: “You’re next!” or “It will soon be your turn!”
It’s not that I don’t dream of marriage and kids, I’m just not ready yet. Each time I picture my own future, I somehow see myself alone. I don’t know why. I’ve always dreamed of a prince charming or a knight in shining armor, but that dream is gone.
As little girls reading fairytales we learn that a guy must come and rescue us from misery and then we’ll live happily ever after. It means that our happiness depends on someone else. We don’t have to do anything, just wait until the guy shows up and saves us from ourselves. It’s kind of frustrating and rather disappointing to grow up and realize that it was all wrong information!
I don’t wanna be rescued! I want to meet someone who will fit into the live I have and the life I’m creating for myself. We can work on it together, but please don’t rescue me! I’m fine! Don’t need help, really.
My reality is built on statistics and according to them way too many marriages don’t last forever. And if they do, how happy are these marriages… I’m not trying to ruin your dreams, but my number one priority right now is to be realistic. To understand what it is that girls imagined while reading fairytales and what we actually get when we grow up. Why all this pressure and rush to get married and start a family? ‘Cause once you get there and you reach your FD (= “final destination”), you can’t turn the clock back. When kids are born you’re 100% at your FD. And then what? You gonna live happily ever after?
That’s what is holding me back! When I reach my FD I won’t be able to rewrite my story, I’ll have to live it.
As I’m writing this post while waiting on my flight at JFK New York, I keep wondering maybe the time just hasn’t come yet, I’m just not ready.
I’ve heard the sentence “I’ll take care of you!” a couple of times in my life and it freaks me out! I don’t want that. I want to take care of myself, BUT I would like to have a man around to support my ideas and believe in me, loving me for who I am and share moments together, respect each other and spice up my world without being responsible for my happiness and taking credit for it.
Happiness is a state of mind, maybe just like inner peace. You’ll get there when your life is stable. When you learn to deal with you and take control over yourself.
And until then you have to learn to deal with pressure and figure out how you want your story to be.. Especially what you are searching for. ‘Cause the old Bible saying: “Search and you will find” still works!
I often think of all the great people that walked on this earth. Writers, poets, politicians, philosophers, businessmen, historical figures, actors, singers, warriors and explores. All of them left a heritage, parts of themselves reflected in their work. Think about it! Who’s your role model? Who’s life is interesting to you? Who’s your source of inspiration?
Watch, read and learn. There’s so much knowledge to get from famous people, you’ll really be surprised. Recently I watched three biography movies: Walk the line (life of Johnny Cash), Ray (life of Ray Charles) and Ali (life of Muhammad Ali)
I often think of all the great people that walked on this earth. Writers, poets, politicians, philosophers, businessmen, historical figures, actors, singers, warriors and explores. All of them left a heritage, parts of themselves reflected in their work. Think about it! Who’s your role model? Who’s life is interesting to you? Who’s your source of inspiration?
Watch, read and learn. There’s so much knowledge to get from famous people, you’ll really be surprised. Recently I watched three biography movies: Walk the line (life of Johnny Cash), Ray (life of Ray Charles) and Ali (life of Muhammad Ali)
But there are so many other movies and books out there. So much to learn about how others dealed with same problems that we’re dealing with today, in our lives.
Same issues: pressure, stress and fear. Same issues, just a different decade.
Same issues: pressure, stress and fear. Same issues, just a different decade.
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